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How Sweet It Is . . . . . .

. . . . . to be loved by my daughter. I had such a wonderful afternoon with my girl and just wanted to record it. So this blog is for me so I don’t forget.

I’m not naive enough to believe that my daughter will always be a shot of pure sunshine. She’s 11. For all I know this could be the last heavenly afternoon we spend together until she climbs out of her teenage years. I really hope it isn’t, but I’ll treasure this in my heart forever. Afterall, she’s already had her first mega-emotional-meltdown on the way to church a few weeks ago. So much so that I had to leave her in the car to gather herself before she came in. She hasn’t done that since she was two. And she only ever did it once. I hope history has a way of repeating itself!

We went to the mall today to try to find something for my mother in law for Mother’s Day. I knew exactly what we were looking for, but if Grandma Betty reads this, I don’t want to ruin it for her!! Upon exiting the car we both complained about what the wind was doing to our hair. We got done positioning our heads for minimal wind damage and then it happened. She reached out and grabbed my hand. I was just kind of stunned.

She holds my hand when we go on walks and when we’re at the dog park. But those are pretty private places. We’re talking the only mall in town with everyone on spring break. There was no chance she wasn’t going to be seen by plenty of kids her own age.

I smiled to myself and figured she’d do the hand drop as soon as we got into Macy’s. Nope. She held on . . . . . basically for our entire outing. I bought her some bubble tea and she didn’t have a free hand to hold. So I tested the waters and put my arm around her shoulders. I asked her if she wanted me to take my arm away and she said no. And when she finished the bubble tea, she held on to my arm for dear life because she was suddenly freezing!

Karen Kingsbury wrote a book called “Let Me Hold You Longer.” The main idea of the book is to not only rejoice in your kid’s firsts, but also in their lasts. She spoke at a tea I attended at church and she focused on this book. Needless to say I was a puddle of tears at the end of her talk. And I thought about that talk today. This might be the last time Amber willingly holds my hand in public. That’s okay . . . . she’s allowed to grow up. But I made sure I savored every second of the affection I got today!

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I’m still standin’

Yeah yeah yeah!

I’ve been neglecting the blog world. Just busy that’s all . . . . Spring break was last week, I planted some flowers, did long overdue yard work, had a wonderful Wednesday date night with my hubby on the Portland waterfront, visited with my aunts who were here this past week, went to a cook out at my parents, refereed fights between the kids, cleaned up after the dogs. It just goes downhill from there.

It’s been a good busy, but I’ve missed my blog!! Maybe I’ll have something of substance on Tuesday. Or not . . . . . .

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All the single ladies . . . .

. . . . . Beyonce here. Not really. I heard that song on SNL ONE TIME and I haven’t been able to get it out of my head since then. Not to mention Justin Timberlake in a leotard and pumps. If you don’t know what I’m talking about, just go to YouTube and search for any interesting phrase of words from the previous sentences. You’ll see it. And you’ll like it.

Anyway – back to the point of this post. Single ladies. I now know the perfect place to meet men. Are you ready for this? The dog park. Oh my gravy. We’ve been hitting up the local dog parks with the puppy lately and I have to say, there are men everywhere. And they’re all so happy playing with their dogs, and in such good moods and they all love to talk! It’s a single girls paradise.

There is one warning. If you’re not looking for a man over 60, you’ll have to be careful. One time I forgot to wear my wedding ring and I was practically besieged by men old (and older) enough to be my dad. I couldn’t understand why I was so popular until I saw one guy squinting through his bifocals at my left hand. I kept that hand in my pocket for the rest of the outing. Sadly, too many had already taken notice.

BUT! There are younger types everywhere. Heck, I’ll even let you borrow my beagle if you don’t have your own dog. I won’t let you take the chihuahua. No single guy is looking for a woman who owns a chihuahua. Especially one that acts like mine.


So that’s my tip of the day. Single + dog parks = possibilities!

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And so it begins . . . .

The spring yard work that is. I finally pruned my hydrangeas today, and the front laurel. Tomorrow I’m going to tackle the moss. After I finish laughing from the last sentence that is. Moss is such a battle around here. At least we get hot enough and dry enough in the summer it isn’t a problem.

Oh YEAH! I came in from my inaugural pruning and the table from the nook is in the living room. Let me repeat (because I didn’t believe my eyes at first, either). THE TABLE WE EAT ON EVERYDAY THAT HAS RESIDED IN THE NOOK WITHOUT INCIDENT IS NOW IN THE LIVING ROOM. Compliments of my son. Are you kidding me? I asked him why it was in there and he said, “I need to put stuff on it. And it was a lot lighter than I thought it would be.”

I’m still shaking my head . . . . . .

I did tell him that once he puts the table back, it’s never to leave the nook again. He even took the leaf out so it would be just the right (even though it’s really tall) size for the living room. He’s very proud of himself.

Teenage boys! And I’ll leave it at that.

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Works For Me Wednesday: God Language

This book by Dr. Myra Perrine is amazing!!! It talks about the nine spiritual temperaments (as first defined by Gary Thomas in “Spiritual Pathways”), which one(s) is yours and how it can help you connect with God better.

The book asserts – and I wholeheartedly agree – that many Christians are frustrated with their walk with God because they *think* that in order to connect with Him, they have to do what everyone else is doing. So while some people might connect with God with in-depth Bible study, others might get frustrated because they don’t feel the same connection and fulfillment.

There are two inventories to take of yourself that helps point you in the right direction. I knew what two of my high areas were going to be (and they were), yet I was completely surprised by the third. Upon her description of the third, I knew it fit me like a glove.

I appreciate the way Dr. Perrine presents the information. None of it is given to you like doctrine. She doesn’t try to add to the Bible nor does she use “twisted Scripture” to prove her point. It just is what it is. And it’s beautiful. Now I understand why certain things in the Christian life appeal so much to me, and why certain things don’t.

I love God’s creation. I can see Him in nature, but it’s not one of the ways I connect to Him. For years I’ve wondered if there’s something wrong with me because I seem to be surrounded by people who just freak out over nature. Guess what? Nothing’s wrong with me!! It just isn’t one of my “God languages.”

For more WFMW fun, check out Kristen’s site: We are THAT Family.

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SW Daybook – March 23, 2009

For Today…

Outside my window… The sun is shining!!!! Sunshine is not guaranteed for spring in the Pacific northwest.

I am thinking… that since it’s spring break, the kids can make their own breakfast.

From the learning rooms… S P R I N G B R E A K

I am thankful for… no matter what the situation, God will take care of me.

From the kitchen… baking brownies from scratch for my son’s small group tonight.

I am wearing… pajamas. No socks or slippers and my feet aren’t freezing 🙂

I am reading… What’s Your God Language by Myra Perrine. Fascinating!

I am hoping… my back will quit hurting. Would probably help if I sat correctly!

I am creating… another rag rug. Tyler wants one by his side of the bed.

I am hearing… Jimmy Neutron and Austin trying new chords on his guitar (he’s obsessed and I think it’s great). Austin has an Ipod Touch and he downloaded a couple of apps that are nothing but guitar chords. Who knew a Touch could also be educational? He probably did, but his mother was clueless.

Around the house… I need to do laundry!

One of my favorite things… hearing my son on the guitar . . . . . . .I think he found something he really loves.

A few plans for the rest of the week… The aunts are coming! The aunts are coming!! My dad’s two sisters from North Carolina will be here tonight for a week. It’s why we’re taking Spring break a week early. Homeschooling can have some suh-weet perks!

Here is a picture thought I am sharing with you…

Austin has been using my camera a lot. He loves taking pictures of the dogs. I’d show you what he took of Belle, but he really wanted to get super-up close pictures and, well, she looks like a concentration camp survivor. Doggie does NOT do closeups well!

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Walking with Amber

Amber and I have decided to start walking together. I was at my retreat last weekend and one of the ladies was saying that she met her neighbor/walking buddy before they even bought their house. They were just looking at the house and the lady came out and asked my friend if she was a walker. Can we just say I was a little jealous??? I want a walking partner, but none of my neighbors who walk schedules jive with mine (did I seriously just type “jive”???).

I had forgotten all about it and a couple of days later I noticed Amber had waaaaaaaaaay too much energy most nights around bed time. So to burn the energy, she dances like a maniac. Which is fine, but it’s usually right before bed and then she’s all riled up. She already has issues with getting to sleep at night. She moves around a lot during the day, but it was obvious she needed a more concentrated energy burn – lol. She’s not into sports at all and I don’t want to push her to do something she won’t like.

Then it hit me and in a matter of seconds that I had a walking partner. What’s even better is that she thought it was a great idea! Of course, the weather here hasn’t been cooperating, but it finally did yesterday. We had to go on a short walk before church, but it was great – so much better than I had imagined.

Amber is a quiet, introspective child. While her brother lets us know just about everything that’s on his mind, Amber keeps a lot of stuff to herself. But about 5 minutes into the walk, little girlfriend let the flood gates open. I was amazed!! I didn’t realize it, but one of her friend’s judgmental attitudes was getting to her. Basically this friend has been taught by her parents that there is only a very narrow view of what is acceptable when it comes to personal appearance. This friend has been having a very harsh attitude towards someone who is a little more “alternative” than she is. Amber just didn’t understand why it meant so much to her friend to dislike this person based on appearance.

What a moment. I told her that Jesus says the two most important commandments are to love God and love others. (I know the alternative person – it’s not like they advocate Satan worship – lol.) And Jesus never told us to like or dislike someone based on how they appeared on the outside. Then she wanted to know how I knew so many Bible verses. I told her I didn’t know Bible verses complete with chapter and verse reference (okay, I do a few), but when you spend a lot of time in God’s word it just becomes who you are. And you know it.

Of course, it’s windy and cold today so she doesn’t want to walk (and that’s f-i-n-e with me). Hopefully it will be better tomorrow. I can’t wait to see where this all leads!! And I’m so grateful to God for giving me the best walking partner I could ever hope for.

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I can’t stand anything about you.

This is what my son told my daughter today at lunch (yes, I AM raising spiritual champions). And to make matters worse, Amber and I just burst out laughing at him when he said it, thus frustrating him more. He was talking about some thing, some abstract concept that I had ceased being able to keep up with long before Amber interrupted him.

When she can’t keep up with him anymore she just blurts out some strange sound . . . . . I guess in an attempt to change the subject? I’m not sure. But if that’s her goal, it works every single time. And today was much funnier than usual.

Austin watches The History Channel and The Science Channel for fun. I think he has memorized every Mythbusters, How It’s Made, Time Warp and Future Weapons there is. His mind is nothing like mine or his sister’s. Thank the Lord for his father – their minds work just alike!

Hopefully dinner will go better and we can eat in peace and in the brotherly love our faith teaches us about.

I’m not holding my breath.

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And lest anyone think me too spiritual . . . .

I, in fact, did NOT see God in the puppy puke at 6:37 this morning. I did see the remains of a stuffed animal and some anonymous plastic pieces. I saw the puke in her kennel and on the stairs I partially fell down trying to get her outside. And I did see the plaque I knocked off the wall while my arms were flailing about trying to keep me upright.

I did not see the stain left on the stairs that I thought I cleaned up. It was before coffee and before 7:00 a.m. and that’s my excuse.

And now I am washing her bedding for the second time this week, thus eclipsing any chance of taking over-energetic pup to the dog park before picking the kids up from their classes and then going to see my parents.

It’s a good thing I’m flexible . . . . .

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All’s well that ends well

THANK GOD. Some, but not all, of you know what I went through last week. I took Austin to the doctor last Monday because he’d been very, very sick and then ended up sprouting a strange under the skin rash on his feet. The doctor, whom I had just told about my mom, informed me that it could be anything from a bad virus to cancer and that Austin had to get a ton of blood tests. But not to worry because she was going to have them done stat and the results would be done later that afternoon.

WHAT??? Who says that to parent (and yes, Austin was in the room) before they’ve done one stinking test? Needless to say, I was a complete wreck until the results came back. The doctor called me and said it appeared Austin had a virus (duh) but she would need to recheck him at the end of the week. So even though the biggest part of the scare was over, I spent the rest of the week having what I can only call mini panic attacks.

Even at my retreat, I spent the first night and half of the next day having the attacks. I called Tyler and he assured me Austin was looking better and his rash was nearly gone. At least I could spend the last 1/2 of the retreat in a little bit better frame of mind.

The doctor called this morning with Austin’s final results and she said they were 100% healthy results. So for the first time in a week I feel like I can really breathe. Like there isn’t some niggling in the back of my mind making me wonder if I really should be concerned.

It was very, very hard being away from Austin this weekend. It was like if I could see him all the time and see he was improving then I would be okay. I learned real quick that I have to keep my eyes on Jesus, not on my circumstances. While this last week has been difficult, I tried to learn as much as possible so hopefully I won’t have to take a make-up test.

Oh, I am going to write the clinic a letter. It will be congenial and I will thank them for leaving no stone unturned when it came to Austin’s health. But the bedside manner could be improved. Seriously improved! I told someone that I think the doctor was in a bad mood because she was so bitter over how horrible her hair looked that day. Maybe that was it. Or she’s been watching too many episodes of “House.”

Thank all of you who knew what was going on for praying for me and Austin. I haven’t been around the blog world much lately because I’ve had so much on my mind. I hope to be back to reading everyone’s blogs today.

And since it’s St. Patty’s day, here’s a picture of what I made us for breakfast. I make them every year. This year I felt especially festive so I used the china and crystal.

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